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Un trabajo para toda la vida: Sobre la experiencia de ser madre

Un trabajo para toda la vida: Sobre la experiencia de ser madre

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  • Author：Rachel Cusk
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Summary

En esta aclamada obra， Rachel Cusk da cuenta de su primer año como madre a través de numerosas reflexiones sobre su propia y radical experiencia: un adiós a la libertad， el sueño y el tiempo， una lección de esfuerzo y humildad y un viaje a las raíces del amor。 Con su habitual capacidad analítica， Cusk reflexiona sobre diversas cuestiones como las expectativas de la sociedad frente al embarazo y la maternidad， las ambivalencias y los sentimientos contradictorios que se desarrollan， las trampas del discurso mayoritario， la infantilización de las embarazadas y las madres primerizas o la soledad del puerperio。

Inteligente， valiente y brutalmente sincero， la publicación de este libro en 2001 suscitó indignación y admiración a partes iguales e incluso desencadenó reacciones extremas， incluida la petición de un famoso columnista solicitando que los servicios sociales se hicieran cargo de las hijas de la autora。

Más de veinte años después， esta obra pionera sigue generando debate， sorprendiendo por su extraordinaria lucidez y es ya un referente imprescindible del género。

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Reviews

Lizzie ，

The first half of the book was good， I especially liked the Motherbaby chapter， but then it seemed to turn into the author having a moan about having a child。 I had such high hopes for this book， but may read again when I'm further into my own motherhood journey。 The first half of the book was good， I especially liked the Motherbaby chapter， but then it seemed to turn into the author having a moan about having a child。 I had such high hopes for this book， but may read again when I'm further into my own motherhood journey。 。。。more

K ，

The title’s complement can be somehow misleading: my reading is that it’s not exactly a book about motherhood but mostly about what remains of the women behind it。 The answer is a question mark。

Virginia ，

Aunque está muy bien escrita， y sorprende su enorme honestidad al contar su proceso como madre desde el embarazo， no he terminado de conectar del todo con este libro。 Tiene muchas cosas positivas， como la soledad y las enormes expectativas a las que se somete la mujer en la maternidad; el apego de los bebés a sus madres en los primeros meses， que no permiten separarse casi en ningún momento， y cómo eso puede hacer sentir a la madre; sobre el miedo a no saber qué necesitan los hijos （y cuándo） y Aunque está muy bien escrita， y sorprende su enorme honestidad al contar su proceso como madre desde el embarazo， no he terminado de conectar del todo con este libro。 Tiene muchas cosas positivas， como la soledad y las enormes expectativas a las que se somete la mujer en la maternidad; el apego de los bebés a sus madres en los primeros meses， que no permiten separarse casi en ningún momento， y cómo eso puede hacer sentir a la madre; sobre el miedo a no saber qué necesitan los hijos （y cuándo） y todas las responsabilidades que se juntan y lo abrumada que puede llegar a sentirse。 。。。more

Ellen ，

Most realistic book on motherhood I've read。 Most realistic book on motherhood I've read。 。。。more

Nicola ，

3。5 star。 Includes perfect passages and irritating moments。

anna ，

the subject matter is endlessly interesting。 the prose is gorgeous， Cusk is a master。 that said， there are so many aspects of this that are insufferable。 the phone call from almost-nanny， Rosa， described at the end of "Help" is telling， i think。 the subject matter is endlessly interesting。 the prose is gorgeous， Cusk is a master。 that said， there are so many aspects of this that are insufferable。 the phone call from almost-nanny， Rosa， described at the end of "Help" is telling， i think。 。。。more

Mazonze Doulo ，

Not an easy book to read， does not make me want to have children at all。 It feels however very necessary that such a book exists。

Djali ❀ ，

Lo stile di Cusk è esagerato， oltremodo pretenzioso。 Pieno di fronzoli inutili e paragoni senza senso， che riescono solo a far perdere il filo del discorso al lettore。Sembra più un esercizio di stile che un racconto dell’esperienza di maternità。È un tema che mi ha sempre suscitato grande interesse， ho portato avanti e terminato la lettura unicamente per tale motivo。Non interamente da buttare ma decisamente noioso e， per quanto riguarda la scrittura， decisamente “troppo”。

Aida ，

3，5

Maya Ranganathan ，

I met my Aunt for dinner shortly after buying this novel。 My Aunt is guileless， earnest， naive; she rarely reads and had never heard of Rachel Cusk before。 In many ways she is the kind of woman susceptible to the mawkish， condescending paraphernalia about motherhood relentlessly marketed to women by sources as diverse as self-help novels， Hollywood and the National Health Service， parodied so dryly and pellucidly by Cusk in the memoir。 My Aunt asked me what the book was about。 I offered a potted I met my Aunt for dinner shortly after buying this novel。 My Aunt is guileless， earnest， naive; she rarely reads and had never heard of Rachel Cusk before。 In many ways she is the kind of woman susceptible to the mawkish， condescending paraphernalia about motherhood relentlessly marketed to women by sources as diverse as self-help novels， Hollywood and the National Health Service， parodied so dryly and pellucidly by Cusk in the memoir。 My Aunt asked me what the book was about。 I offered a potted summary， explaining that Cusk's attempt to put words to the kind of wholesale dissolution of self that was her experience of early parenthood was ruthlessly denigrated by the reading public， who condemned what they saw as her cold-heartedness， her narcissism， her heedless individualism。 My Aunt was confused at this strain of criticism。 'I just don't understand that， Maya'， she said breathlessly。 'The truth is， being a parent is really hard'。 There is a brilliant essay in 'Coventry' - a collection released 18 years after the publication of 'A Life's Work' - in which Cusk subverts the cliched 'Why I Write' piece by interrogating， not why she herself writes， by why others seem to want to， and why she is willing to teach them。 In it， she explains that the desire to write is a desire to live more honestly through language - to surmount， and perhaps destroy completely， that pervasive chasm between our internal experience of self and the 'false' （or at least incomplete） self we present externally。 In other words， language pursues truth; it is the medium through which the falsity， fiction and fabrication we use to regulate and narrativise our lives can be rubbed off， exposed。 If Cusk is correct （as I think she is） and this is indeed the tacitly agreed upon purpose of writing， then 'A Life's Work' is remarkable in how assiduously and successfully it pursues its goal。 And the criticism of it - that it is vain， alternatively self-absorbed and self-effacing， an affront to mothers and children everywhere - seems in many ways to be a criminal attempt to cover up what myself and my Aunt and Cusk and many other women understand to be， if not THE truth， then at least A truth worth telling。 。。。more

Sophie Niemansburg ，

Deels herkenbaar als moeder。 Wel soms erg cynisch en wat te hoogdravend。

Tahmineh Baradaran ，

تقریبا " همه احساسات بیان شده یک مادرامروزی را به درستی بیان میکند ولی برای من اغراق آمیزبود。 من که با دانشجویی و اشتغال وجنگ و。。。مادری هم میکردم ، شاید آنقدری وقت برای فلسفه زندگی نداشتم 。مادریا پدرشدن ازدید من مسئولیتی تمام وقت وتمام عمراست واگرکسی حاضربه آن نیست حتما" نبایستی بچه دارشود。 واگرشدی آه وناله وفلسفه بافی زیاده است 。 تقریبا " همه احساسات بیان شده یک مادرامروزی را به درستی بیان میکند ولی برای من اغراق آمیزبود。 من که با دانشجویی و اشتغال وجنگ و。。。مادری هم میکردم ، شاید آنقدری وقت برای فلسفه زندگی نداشتم 。مادریا پدرشدن ازدید من مسئولیتی تمام وقت وتمام عمراست واگرکسی حاضربه آن نیست حتما" نبایستی بچه دارشود。 واگرشدی آه وناله وفلسفه بافی زیاده است 。 。。。more

Maddie ，

The fact that this book is controversial is what makes it necessary for her to’ve written it。 I think the people who were pissed about this are probably the same people who are incensed when someone draws a comparison between having a baby and having a pet。

pae ，

This book hits me like a train and I bawled。 Being a mother is an honour but it comes with responsibilities， and with that， expectations。

Zoe ，

I can’t remember the last time I related so strongly to a book。 I feel comforted and seen。 A beautiful portrait of the harrowing nature of being a mother/parent， the isolation， the grief， the monotony， the guilt。 So many passages that I’ve underlined， expressing what I haven’t been able to put into words myself。 Thank you Rachel for this gift！

Jae ，

Bits of the author’s thoughts around becoming a mother with her newborn。 I have a feeling that most of newly moms would have similar feelings except they don’t have the time/energy/talent to write them down as the author did。 Thus I like this book for this particular reason。 As a women in her late 20s with occasional thoughts about having a kid someday， when I read the book， half of the time I was wondering if I would feel similarly when having a child， another half of the time I was wondering i Bits of the author’s thoughts around becoming a mother with her newborn。 I have a feeling that most of newly moms would have similar feelings except they don’t have the time/energy/talent to write them down as the author did。 Thus I like this book for this particular reason。 As a women in her late 20s with occasional thoughts about having a kid someday， when I read the book， half of the time I was wondering if I would feel similarly when having a child， another half of the time I was wondering if my mom had similar feelings when she had me。 Sometimes the chapters were too long and too detailed， I don’t blame her as she is indeed a writer with a more extended observation and desire for expression。 I enjoyed the book。 。。。more

renee ，

Compelling。

Nadirah ，

How can Cusk write so beautifully about the woes and tribulations of motherhood and still make it funny and somewhat relatable？ Heck， I'm someone who is not planning on having kids， yet I devoured this empathically。 Be warned: though the writing & reflections in this are beautifully written， Cusk does not hold back when she talks about the less desirable aspects of motherhood。 I suspect most mothers who would rather not grapple with this 'uglier' side would probably detest such a book as this， e How can Cusk write so beautifully about the woes and tribulations of motherhood and still make it funny and somewhat relatable？ Heck， I'm someone who is not planning on having kids， yet I devoured this empathically。 Be warned: though the writing & reflections in this are beautifully written， Cusk does not hold back when she talks about the less desirable aspects of motherhood。 I suspect most mothers who would rather not grapple with this 'uglier' side would probably detest such a book as this， especially when the authors don't paint a perfectly rosy picture of the experience。 。。。more

Karen Slora ，

DNF。 I really tried to get into this memoir of motherhood but couldn’t get past the esoteric intellectual musings。 I was left with the impression that motherhood was thrust upon her and she was trying to rationalize and analyze the heck out of it。 As a mother myself， motherhood just IS， and words and verbal gymnastics do little to understand its profound nature。 Her story didn’t feel authentic。 Frankly， I am puzzled why the NYT listed it as one of the best memoirs。 It probably is worth a listen DNF。 I really tried to get into this memoir of motherhood but couldn’t get past the esoteric intellectual musings。 I was left with the impression that motherhood was thrust upon her and she was trying to rationalize and analyze the heck out of it。 As a mother myself， motherhood just IS， and words and verbal gymnastics do little to understand its profound nature。 Her story didn’t feel authentic。 Frankly， I am puzzled why the NYT listed it as one of the best memoirs。 It probably is worth a listen though if you are a new mother， just to get another perspective。 。。。more

Meiran ，

I was certainly not expecting a parenting manual。 But at the same time， I also did not expect as much philosophizing and literary references as it did contain。 Overall an informative， candid， and frightening read， though I can't help but find the deluge of emotions the author described of herself a bit over the top。 Also， I get that this book is about motherhood， but I still wish the author talked about the husband a bit more， as that surely affects the experience as well I was certainly not expecting a parenting manual。 But at the same time， I also did not expect as much philosophizing and literary references as it did contain。 Overall an informative， candid， and frightening read， though I can't help but find the deluge of emotions the author described of herself a bit over the top。 Also， I get that this book is about motherhood， but I still wish the author talked about the husband a bit more， as that surely affects the experience as well 。。。more

Megan Buerger ，

Waffled between hating， liking， and loving this book。 The first half dragged on a bit; I could only endure so many pages about the guilt and difficulties of breastfeeding。 But the second half， especially Hell’s Kitchen， was a revelation。 Cusk’s journey into new motherhood doesn’t exactly mirror my own， but it was a relief to see parts of myself reflected in her pointed， masterful prose。

Els ，

Een levenswerk。 Door: Rachel Cusk。Dit boek verscheen al eerder in vertaling （in 2004） onder de naam: In het land van moeders。 Het is alweer de derde druk maar ik las het nog niet， tot nu。Ondertussen ben ik 43， bewust kindvrij én fan van Cusk。 Dus las ik deze week een boek ‘over het moederschap’。 En dacht heel vaak: zo blij dat ik geen kinderen heb ;） Niet omdat Cusk het moederschap als een voorportaal van de hel beschrijft （hoewel）; wél omdat ze het zo eerlijk én met humor opschrijft。 Ze schuwt Een levenswerk。 Door: Rachel Cusk。Dit boek verscheen al eerder in vertaling （in 2004） onder de naam: In het land van moeders。 Het is alweer de derde druk maar ik las het nog niet， tot nu。Ondertussen ben ik 43， bewust kindvrij én fan van Cusk。 Dus las ik deze week een boek ‘over het moederschap’。 En dacht heel vaak: zo blij dat ik geen kinderen heb ;） Niet omdat Cusk het moederschap als een voorportaal van de hel beschrijft （hoewel）; wél omdat ze het zo eerlijk én met humor opschrijft。 Ze schuwt de rauwe kantjes， momenten van wanhoop， de uitputtingsslag van het niet doorslapen， de epische momenten van vertwijfeling niet。 Rachel Cusk schrijft zoals ze altijd schrijft: met een genadeloze， trefzekere pen en verfijnde humor， veel humor。 Met dit verschil: Een levenswerk is， in tegenstelling tot bijvoorbeeld Contouren， De tweede plaats， Kudos，…autofictie。 Wat me veel moeilijker te schrijven lijkt， als je het goed wil doen， en dat doet ze。 Dit boek is persoonlijk en publiek， zelfs politiek soms。 Hoewel het heel Cusk is， intiem， zal het voor moeders universeel aanvoelen， denk ik。 Een levenswerk is geschreven tijden de zwangerschap （6 maanden na de geboorte van de eerste dochter） en de eerste levensmaanden van haar tweede dochter; een huzarenstuk want afgaande op wat ik in dit boek las gaan baby’s en boeken （lezen/schrijven） niet goed samen。Cusk slaagt erin om een hart onder de riem te steken van （lezende） moeders; door haar eerlijkheid， scherpe blik en kritische kijk op opvoedboeken， bevallingsbrochures， wijkverpleegsters en andere ouders die doen alsof alles altijd happy happy joy joy is。 De vlotte schrijfstijl， meeslepende verhalen en nodige humor maken dit een aanrader voor iedereen: fans van Cusk， fans van goed geschreven autoficie， bewuste ouders en bewust-niet-ouders。 Of combinaties van。 Cusk’s oeuvre is verslavend。 Lees één boek van haar en je wil alles lezen， haar stem is uniek。 。。。more

Anaïs Favre ，

Des mots posés avec justesse sur ce que j' ai ressenti en devenant mère。 Important Des mots posés avec justesse sur ce que j' ai ressenti en devenant mère。 Important 。。。more

Shelby Deeter ，

Wow， okay， Rachel Cusk， how dare you peer into my soul like that。

Jenna ，

Powerful as a blazing furnace， emotionally， in addition to intelligent， literate， and witty: I devoured all 200+ pages in a single day。 Based on all the controversy surrounding this book， all the outraged reviews/hot-takes/thinkpieces， I expected A Life's Work to be unrelentingly serious， but there are many laugh-out-loud hilarious moments， too。 I want to hold onto the lesson of the chapter titled "Hell's Kitchen，" where the speaker is lifted out of an emotional nadir by reading the Coleridge po Powerful as a blazing furnace， emotionally， in addition to intelligent， literate， and witty: I devoured all 200+ pages in a single day。 Based on all the controversy surrounding this book， all the outraged reviews/hot-takes/thinkpieces， I expected A Life's Work to be unrelentingly serious， but there are many laugh-out-loud hilarious moments， too。 I want to hold onto the lesson of the chapter titled "Hell's Kitchen，" where the speaker is lifted out of an emotional nadir by reading the Coleridge poem "Frost at Midnight。" Times can get hard， brutally so， but maintaining a tether to poetry， to literature， can provide a lifeline。 And books， because they may be read aloud （as in the chapter "Extra Fox"）， can offer an opportunity for connecting not just with one's past and present selves but with one's child， too。 。。。more

Frankie ，

I found a lot to relate to in here， but again with the ironic remove of motherhood books。 At its best when she wasn’t trying to be funny

Yvette ，

I read a bit more than half but I’m counting it as finished。 Dang， this book just increased my doubts and concerns around having kids。 Because it increased my anxiety around popping out a kid， caring for it and raising it I wanted to give it fewer stars， but I think she’s probably just doing a good job of illustrating how forking hard it is。

Laura ，

Annoin toisen mahdollisuuden Rachel Cuskille。 Hän on älykäs， tarkkanäköinen ja hyvä kirjoittamaan。 Tuoreena äitinä tämä kirja olisi luultavasti ilahduttanut minua enemmän。 Nyt tiedän jo， että suunnilleen kaikki äidit käyvät nämä tunteet läpi ensimmäisen lapsen kohdalla。 Se ei vähennä aihetta käsittelevien kirjojen tärkeyttä。 Näille on vain oma aikansa。Cusk on myös ylimielinen ja ankea。 Hän ylenkatsoo pikkukaupungin äitejä ja esimerkkinä kerrottu anekdootti äitikerhosta oli kieltämättä epämiellyt Annoin toisen mahdollisuuden Rachel Cuskille。 Hän on älykäs， tarkkanäköinen ja hyvä kirjoittamaan。 Tuoreena äitinä tämä kirja olisi luultavasti ilahduttanut minua enemmän。 Nyt tiedän jo， että suunnilleen kaikki äidit käyvät nämä tunteet läpi ensimmäisen lapsen kohdalla。 Se ei vähennä aihetta käsittelevien kirjojen tärkeyttä。 Näille on vain oma aikansa。Cusk on myös ylimielinen ja ankea。 Hän ylenkatsoo pikkukaupungin äitejä ja esimerkkinä kerrottu anekdootti äitikerhosta oli kieltämättä epämiellyttävä。 Rachel huomaa kyllä epäonnistumiset。 Mutta toisessa kohtauksessa hän itse halveksuu jonkinlaista 1920-luvun larppia viettäviä nuoria， koska nuoret isoine nenineen tai pönäkköine vartaloineen eivät tajua olevansa liian rumia larppiinsa。 Rachel-parkaa puistattaa tämä nolo näky。 Erityisesti kirjan loppupuolta vaivaa sama kolkkous kuin Ääriviivoissa。 En taida kokeilla enää kolmatta kirjaa。 。。。more

Rachel Jensen ，

Yikes， dude。 Major yikes。 Some great sentences， some sentences trying too hard to be great and ultimately becoming mangled in the process。 In general， Cusk's memoir writing should only be read in order to marvel at a woman so determined to make herself miserable， to make herself a victim， all the while depicting every stranger who crosses her path as cruelly as possible。 She's an absolute nut job。 Maybe that's why I felt compelled to finish it。 The opportunity to play armchair psychoanalyst to t Yikes， dude。 Major yikes。 Some great sentences， some sentences trying too hard to be great and ultimately becoming mangled in the process。 In general， Cusk's memoir writing should only be read in order to marvel at a woman so determined to make herself miserable， to make herself a victim， all the while depicting every stranger who crosses her path as cruelly as possible。 She's an absolute nut job。 Maybe that's why I felt compelled to finish it。 The opportunity to play armchair psychoanalyst to this woman's total lack of self awareness was the most interesting aspect of the book。 。。。more

Becky ，

Difficult to believe why this got so much flak。 Very well written and entirely reasonable？

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